Dear Brothas,
I’m not talking about all black men but lately there is a bigger percentage of brothas that is showing this “bias” attitude about certain type of westernize women. Some of you say you prefer the socalled light skin, long hair, pretty girl. You say that’s what every man wants. It’s what every man always wanted. Really? I know this type of attitude can exist in anyone. And it has for many years.
Racism has been going on for thousands of years. It existed with the Jews and Samaritans, even when Jesus Christ walk the earth. The Jews and Samaritans didn’t even talk to each other because of that hatred. It became a tradition with them which spread like a poisonous wildfire. More than likely, it existed before then. It was going about in the era of Hitler. Pitting Germans against Jews and finally regarding in the horrible Holocaust that we know of today.
This ignorant attitude, racism brought about slavery and later Jim Crow in North America. Then the socalled superiority attitude brought about Apartheid in South Africa. I written a lot about racism. It is a self-inflicted slave mentality that falsely suggest that superiority is only with certain types of races. When you decide that you prefer to relate better to other races than your own, honey that’s racism/prejudice.
It is self-hatred, brothas and everyone else that feels this way. It consists of a bunch of stereotypes that someone else made up, while you believe it like 3×3 is 9! Don’t hate yourself and/or anyone else. Love yourself. Respect yourself. Be proud of yourself. Because if you don’t take care of the only life that you have, no one else will! I do believe that dating with your socalled bias in mind is not what you need at all. First, you need to take care of your issues before you date anybody. Of course, anybody can date whoever they want. It’s your life. Your choices. Your consequences.
Whenever I hear about people talking about their narrowminded preferences, about how they prefer these kind of looks compared to those-then it becomes their preference to be prejudiced. We understand everyone have their preferences, but it will make better sense if you examine everyone with it. Right? When you show bias against some and not others, that isn’t a preference. Instead it is prejudice.
I bet you probably wonder why I wrote this letter for black men and others that choose to believe these stereotypes. I did it because over the years I’ve gotten so many questions regarding this topic. I use to be a racist. I’ve stated this plainly in my previous posts on this site and my own. I’ve change for the best! So I’m not one anymore! And those people whom I’m talking about can do the same, if they want to. You are not going to be happy unless you live in the reality and began to make common sense. When you hate on your own race, not only are you selling out cheaply, you have become worser than the bigots that hate on other races.
I remembered a few years ago, when I was at a restaurant when I heard a black man make a very ignorant statement about black women. I overheard the man and his friends talking about dating outside of their race. I walk right by them just before I heard this brotha say, “If all black women look like her, then I’ll definitely date one of ‘em!” I almost laughed at his outrageous remark! But instead I kept on walking and thought to myself, “Let him continue to be ignorant because in the end, his ignorance will not hurt black women but only will hurt himself.” Truefully speaking, good and bad deeds exist in everyone.
God held back nothing when he created everyone. And if he had held back something, then most likely you wouldn’t have been created. Maybe when you meet the type of person that you are, when you become that type of person that you talk about, you will see how it is to be judge without proving yourself first. So it’s no use for being bias. In the end, your lopsided prejudice will keep you from all the happiness in the world. So be true to yourself if you allow yourself to be swallowed in somebody else’s misery, you will always be disappointed with your life. And I know you love yourself way too much for that to happen!
Love,
Denise
